The term first started showing up online in the mid-1990s, mostly among message boards for swingers and exhibitionists. For some, it’s mainly a foreplay exercise to talk through a hypothetical fantasy of infidelity. Watch as she sits on her boyfriends knee while he places a fott on her husband to support her. Regardless of its origins, the hotwife anklet lifestyle is now a popular way for couples to add excitement to their relationship. In some cases, there really aren’t any affairs taking place in hotwifing. Some say that the hotwife anklet lifestyle started as a way for couples to spice up their sex life, while others believe that it originated as a way for men to show their ownership of their wives. It only works if both partners are mutually onboard the hotwifing arrangement often falls apart when one partner becomes uncomfortable with non-monogamy or when one partner feels pressured against their will to participate.

One of the most important aspects though is that both partners are open and trusting with each other. Hotwifing isn’t exactly swinging because only one partner is having extramarital sex. In many cases, one spouse or the other even gains sexual arousal from the arrangement due to voyeurism, the thrill of doing something taboo, or an infidelity and/or jealousy fetish. The difference between hotwifing and cheating is consent: In a hotwife arrangement, the husband is fully aware and supportive of his wife’s affairs. The idea of hotwifing comes from the concept of a husband showing off and sharing his “hot wife.” The non-monogamous arrangement is related to a cuckolding fetish, and many (but not all) husbands in such a relationship refer to themselves as cuckolds or hot-wifers.

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